Rant on kids and parents.

[plunkybug]

I am truly dismayed in some of the posts lately in childfree. It seems that there is so much negativity and hatred toward children. I may or may not have children in the future, and therefore I am childfree, by at least my definition (by theirs I would be called childless), and I do not hate children. There are plenty of people who never want to have children of their own, for their own reasons, and love kids. I may have to withdraw my membership if they continue the negativity. It is one thing to not have kids by choice, and another to applaud a woman grabbing her 3 year old daughter by the hair and dragging her to the car after running loose in a mall parking lot (or advocating the use of a permanent leash...how demeaning!). The kid is fucking 3 years old!! They're going to act like it too. It is the parent's responsibility to watch out for the child's safety and well being. If that means carrying your 3 year old while out in a parking lot because they are know to run around (as young kids do) then so be it. Hold hands tightly if need be. Be a good parent and don't be cruel or abusive to the kid like that just to get the message across. That harbors resentment and anger and could cause more bad habits in the future. Find another way of reprimanding th kid for doing that that is not hurtful, but gets the message across. Just actually do your job as a parent. Truly these hateful people have never gotten the love from a child that is so pure, and infectious. It would be good for them if they did.

Comments

[starra74.livejournal.com]

I don't hate children, but I will say that I've never receive anything like "love from a child that is so pure, and infectious."

I've gotten puke, spit, shit, piss, paint, toys over the head and talked back to from a child, but never love.

And if my child development courses were correct, you don't get love from children until they are about 4 to 6 years old.

Before that, it's just need, need, need.

Like I said, I don't hate them, but I keep a wide berth from children, most housepets and houseplants for a reason.

[plunkybug.livejournal.com]

And your views are totally fine. I am on birth control for a reason, though I admit that I love seeing the gleam in my friend's kids eyes when they run up to me and want me to play with them, or hug them, etc. But yeah, they are all older than 4, and children do need a lot. They have to. If they could do it on their own from the start, we wouldn't care for them as long as we do.