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plunkybugI am truly dismayed in some of the posts lately in ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
childfree. It seems that there is so much negativity and hatred toward children. I may or may not have children in the future, and therefore I am childfree, by at least my definition (by theirs I would be called childless), and I do not hate children. There are plenty of people who never want to have children of their own, for their own reasons, and love kids. I may have to withdraw my membership if they continue the negativity. It is one thing to not have kids by choice, and another to applaud a woman grabbing her 3 year old daughter by the hair and dragging her to the car after running loose in a mall parking lot (or advocating the use of a permanent leash...how demeaning!). The kid is fucking 3 years old!! They're going to act like it too. It is the parent's responsibility to watch out for the child's safety and well being. If that means carrying your 3 year old while out in a parking lot because they are know to run around (as young kids do) then so be it. Hold hands tightly if need be. Be a good parent and don't be cruel or abusive to the kid like that just to get the message across. That harbors resentment and anger and could cause more bad habits in the future. Find another way of reprimanding th kid for doing that that is not hurtful, but gets the message across. Just actually do your job as a parent. Truly these hateful people have never gotten the love from a child that is so pure, and infectious. It would be good for them if they did.
childfree. It seems that there is so much negativity and hatred toward children. I may or may not have children in the future, and therefore I am childfree, by at least my definition (by theirs I would be called childless), and I do not hate children. There are plenty of people who never want to have children of their own, for their own reasons, and love kids. I may have to withdraw my membership if they continue the negativity. It is one thing to not have kids by choice, and another to applaud a woman grabbing her 3 year old daughter by the hair and dragging her to the car after running loose in a mall parking lot (or advocating the use of a permanent leash...how demeaning!). The kid is fucking 3 years old!! They're going to act like it too. It is the parent's responsibility to watch out for the child's safety and well being. If that means carrying your 3 year old while out in a parking lot because they are know to run around (as young kids do) then so be it. Hold hands tightly if need be. Be a good parent and don't be cruel or abusive to the kid like that just to get the message across. That harbors resentment and anger and could cause more bad habits in the future. Find another way of reprimanding th kid for doing that that is not hurtful, but gets the message across. Just actually do your job as a parent. Truly these hateful people have never gotten the love from a child that is so pure, and infectious. It would be good for them if they did.
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Date: 2 Jul 2005 22:25 (UTC)However it is fucked up what they say on there all the time even a year a go.
I also am upset at one of the women on my friends list, she said some pretty fucked up stuff about kids and how much she hates kids and being around them on her LJ
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Date: 3 Jul 2005 14:20 (UTC)I don't get to read it that often, but when I do, it is so negative nearly all the time. I am seriously gonna put up a post and withraw my membership. I would like to find a community where people like me are there, where they don't hate children, but they don't want any of their own, at least for a while, if ever.
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Date: 3 Jul 2005 15:24 (UTC)and read...It has beena good 6 months since I read but damn all they do is GO OFF about kids in public, kids they are related to, friends having babies..
they have a nasty negative opinion and are greatly repulsed by children in general.
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Date: 3 Jul 2005 15:36 (UTC)no subject
Date: 5 Jul 2005 04:14 (UTC)Just a suggestion: take it easy on your withdrawl post. It's 98% likely that you won't be able to change their minds if they feel that strongly about it. Most you'll do is annoy the crap out of them and give them more ammo to be negative about. Just state your piece simply and without judgement. Even better, create your own "child-positive childfree" site and tell people about it in your withdrawl post. That way you don't have to do any finger wagging - the purpose of your group will say volumes.
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Date: 5 Jul 2005 12:08 (UTC)